It’s Human Nature to Be Judgmental.
Being judgmental is something everyone does. We do it without thinking. And we do it a lot. It’s part of our human nature. Some judgments aren’t hurtful but most of them are. It’s the negative judgments that I’m referring to in this blog.
Judgmental comments can be harmful, especially if it gets back to the person you’re talking about. But it doesn’t just negatively affect the other person. When you bring others down, you bring yourself down as well. Although you might not experience it at the time, judging others can make you feel bad about yourself afterwards. You may feel guilty that you were being mean or small-minded. Then you feel worse about yourself for not taking the high road.
When you’re being judgmental, you’re creating negative energy. That energy not only goes through your entire body but out around you—affecting yourself and others in a negative way. The last thing the world needs is more negative energy.
Being Judgmental is Due to Fears and Insecurities.
Fear is the main culprit behind most of your judging. You’ve determined what is “right” and “wrong,” what is acceptable and what is not. You don’t like those who are different than you are, or not living by your rules and standards.
Oftentimes, being judgmental is less about them and more about your own insecurities and inadequacies. You try to feel better about yourself by putting others down, often for the very thing you’re most insecure about. Learn to love and accept yourself exactly as you. Cherish the shadow in you as much as you do the Light. As you stop judging yourself, you’ll stop judging others, too.
Being judgmental is a habit that would be in your best interest to stop. Here are some effective ways to stop judging.
The Mind Tends to Naturally Be Negative.
We tend to negatively judge other people and don’t even realize we’re doing it. It happens all day long. It’s another reason to become more present rather than operate on autopilot. Pay attention and observe your thoughts more. When you find yourself being negative about anything or anyone, redirect your thoughts in a positive direction. You can always find something to be grateful for.
If you notice a persistent judgment, take a moment to reflect on it. Time to root out your underlying fear or insecurities behind that judgment.
Everyone Is Doing the Best They Can at Their Stage of Soul Development.
From a young age, we’re taught what’s appropriate. We’re each raised with different values and beliefs. We each have our own comfort zones we live within. It might be time to move out of the box, step outside your comfort zone. Be more open-minded towards other viewpoints and lifestyles.
Remember the bigger picture. Earth is a free-will planet with tremendous opportunities for soul growth and evolution because of the huge contrasts. There are extremes of Dark and Light, younger and older souls, and everything in between here.
We are each on a uniquely designed evolutionary journey perfect for what our souls want to discover. You may cross paths with a gay Hispanic man who has bravely chosen in this particular lifetime to explore lack of tolerance from others, and master deeper levels of forgiveness of others and self-love. You may work with a controlling co-worker who has deliberately selected this lifetime to discover how to finally let go of their mind’s fears and release the DNA cellular memory of their ancestors’ fears as well.
Everyone is intentionally on your path to help you evolve. Honor the choices and lessons of others rather than becoming dragged into negativity. What matters is how you react to these people, not who they are or their behavior. Is your conditioned, fearful mind reacting with judgment? Or are you responding from your heart with acceptance and compassion?
Each one of us is growing at the pace and in the way we’re capable of progressing. It’s easier to have compassion when you realize everyone is doing the best they can with where they are in their stage of development.
Richer Possibilities Open Up When You’re Not Judgmental.
Becoming less judgmental is an ongoing process that takes mindfulness and practice. Allow each moment of your life to unfold without your mind’s expectations and judgments getting in the way. When you stop your mind’s negativity and resistance, you’re more open to receive the hidden blessings life has in store for you. Some of life’s greatest gifts come packaged in the most surprising ways.