Do you ever feel like sometimes you aren’t good enough? We all do. You’d be surprised how many people feel that way. We live in a culture with social media where we’re constantly exposed to everyone else’s successes. It’s easy to feel we don’t measure up physically, professionally or socially.
Even though feeling not good enough is common, we each react differently. The effect it has on you will depend on how much power you give those feelings of inadequacy. Do you let the thought of not being good enough control you or do you allow that feeling to pass? If you identify with these thoughts of not being thin enough, successful enough, rich enough, it can hold you back and keep you from reaching your full potential and enjoying the life you have.
The good thing is, you can change your thinking so you feel good about yourself no matter what. Here’s how.
Stop Believing Marketing Ads About What You’re Lacking
It’s possible your feelings of inadequacy started in childhood with demanding parents or teachers that led to low self-esteem. That conditioning may have been unknowingly playing in the background as you grew up. The berating internal dialogue that started early in life may have continued into the present. It’s an unhealthy habit that really needs to stop.
Even if you had a wholesome upbringing, it’s difficult to maintain a healthy self-esteem with the images you are constantly bombarded with. Marketing deliberately blasts you with images designed to make you feel you’re not good enough unless you buy their product or service. You are continually exposed to an endless supply of images of things you’ve gotta have to be happier, skinnier, richer, more successful . . . It never ever stops! How in the world are you supposed to believe you’re fine just the way you are without all this stuff?!
Social media doesn’t help. Almost everyone is addicted to it. On a daily basis, you’re subjected to other people’s extremely filtered comments and photos about how awesome their lives are. It’s a good idea to limit social media.
Don’t Grab Hold of and Engage Negative Thoughts
Your inner critic is usually behind these feelings of not being good enough. You beat yourself up whenever you make a mistake or fail to meet your own expectations. Try seeing any “mistakes” or failings as growth opportunities. They are unavoidable. It’s all part of the human experience. And it’s why you’re here.
Guess what. There’s so much more right with you than wrong with you. Replace negative thoughts about yourself with positive ones. Shift your focus from what you believe is wrong with you to what you are good at. Nobody’s perfect. We’re each good at some things but not everything.
What do you appreciate about yourself? You usually don’t focus enough on all the wonderful things you do and the rock star that you are. Make no mistake about it—you are a rock star! A fractal of Divine Source currently experiencing life in a human form, to be more specific. You have bravely chosen to incarnate on this challenging planet for the purpose of soul growth. You are an extraordinary Divine luminous being. Period! Don’t let your mind or anyone else ever convince you’re not good enough.
You are specifically designed exactly the way you need to be for your soul’s unique journey. If you needed to be smarter for this particular lifetime, you’d be smarter. If you needed to be taller, better looking, athletic, ambitious, you would be.
Do yourself a HUGE favor and stop comparing yourself and your life to other people. Each of us are at different stages of soul growth, experiencing what we need for where we are in our soul’s evolution. No two paths are going to be the same.
So, let those negative thoughts move right on through you. Whenever your mind serves them to you (and it will), let it roll right on by like the other thousands of thoughts you have every day. When you don’t latch on to them, they generally disappear within 90 seconds.
Don’t Believe Everything Your Mind Thinks is True
You don’t feel good enough because you’ve given certain thoughts power and believed them. Your mind is incredibly clever and will tell you all kinds of things—but a lot of it is not true. Just because you think it, doesn’t mean it’s real. (Psst. Your mind lies to you frequently.)
Recognize that a thought is just a thought. Don’t let it define you. Instead of thinking, I’m not good enough, think I’m having a thought which is telling me I’m not good enough. Observe your thoughts, emotionally detach from them. Examine the thought and whether it’s actually true. Then you learn to control your mind instead of your mind controlling you. That’s when you gain freedom from the whims, distortions, and misperceptions of your mind.
We tend to hang on to past events and develop stories around them. Those old stories can shade how we view ourselves and define our future. It’s time to let the old stories go. Your power is in the present, not the past or the future.
Never Allow Others to Define Your Worth
Discover the hidden message behind your “not good enough” thoughts. Are you looking for love and trying to find it through others?
“Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it.” —Anonymous
If you need the validation of others to prove your worth, you’re setting yourself up for heartache. It’s all too easy for others to deliberately keep you small. Stop ascribing your worth to what others believe. Start nurturing self-love.
The most effective way to deal with the feeling of not being good enough is to realize that it comes from within, and to train your mind to quit engaging in these negative thoughts. It’s simply a habit.
You are more than good enough. You always have been. You’re actually quite glorious. Now own it.