You Don’t Have Control Over Others
Do the things people do sometimes drive you nuts? Do their choices trigger anger in you or the need to fix them? You don’t have to get pulled into their stuff. When you change your response, you remove your “velcro.” There’s no stickiness from your side for anything to catch on to. Tweaking a few of your thought patterns and perspectives will help you be at peace . . . no matter what’s going on around you.
You don’t have control over other people’s behavior and situations. But you do have power over your response to these things. Become aware your mind is judging there’s something wrong with them and their behavior. The problem is your judging, not them.
Most of my life, I was frustrated at religious organizations which preached intolerance towards gays and lesbians. When I realized I was judging their judging, it made it easier for me to let it go and accept the diversity in belief systems.
See the Bigger Picture
Earth is a free-will planet with extremes of Dark and Light. This tremendous contrast provides endless opportunities to make huge leaps in your soul’s growth. It’s all deliberately there for your soul’s expansion.
Our soul’s passion is growth and expansion . . . the ultimate game underlying everything! Each of us is on a unique path perfectly designed for what our soul wants to explore and experience for purposes of growth.
Remember that no one is any better or less than because of where they are in their soul’s evolvement and the lessons they’re learning. Everyone is doing the best they can with where they are at their stage of development. We’re each growing at the pace and in the way we’re capable of progressing.
A more evolved soul will encounter more challenging lessons because it is capable of nailing it. As an example, your soul may choose to develop high levels of acceptance (that’s common for more evolved souls). You will bump into all kinds of chances to help release your mind’s desire to judge and control, and shift into acceptance and compassion. Specific people and circumstances appear in your life as fantastic opportunities to help you master the lesson.
Allow Others the Course They Choose
Intend to respect the choices and lessons of others, rather than becoming dragged into a negative probability. What matters is how you respond to these things, not their behavior. Is your fearful mind reacting with judgment, resistance and negativity? Or are you responding from your heart with acceptance, patience and compassion? Keep in mind, they’re purposely on your path to help you grow.
That doesn’t mean you have to expose yourself to toxic situations with people. That’s a “lesson” right there about self-love. It’s alright to protect yourself by setting limits and healthy boundaries with others.
Find the Good in Them
People have developed into who they are for a reason. Dig a little deeper to understand the circumstances that molded them. Have they had love withheld and withdrawn from them to make them behave the way they do? Compassion is easier when you’re aware of what they’ve had to face or overcome.
Focus on the good in them but accept them exactly as they are. Find things to be grateful for about them, including the growth opportunities (“Whoppertunities!”) they present to you. Try to find it in your heart to have unconditional love and compassion for them. That boils down to acceptance. That’s when the inner struggle ends and true peace begins.